Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Mental Health and Self Care in College

As a junior in college, I have time and time again been reminded of the importance of looking after your mental health. College is one of the most stressful, and most hard things that you can do, so it's important to check in with yourself and make sure that you're getting the added support where you need it. There have been many times, this past year especially, where I've been incredibly thankful for the counselars that I have available and for the time that I'm able to take out of my days every once in a while to have some self care.

A lot of the time, I feel like I'm looking through one of those peepholes on a front door at the things that I want, and even though they're right there, all I can do is look at them through the peep hole. Sometimes the things that I see are different, but they always seem to be things that I feel are unattainable at the time (be that good grades, a relationship, stability, etc).

The only thing about looking through a peephole is that you only see a small part of the entire picture. I've found that, when it comes to my own mental health, this is the most detrimental thing for me. The times when I have finally attained those things that I was looking at through a peephole, I'm finally seeing the bigger picture and it really isn't as grand as it looked when all I was doing was looking at a small portion of it. Things like getting into the college of my dreams only to be faced with medical trouble and classes that are harder than expected, and starting in on a relationship that looked good to begin with but once it's begun isn't what I wanted or thought it would be.

One of the biggest things that I've been reminding myself of all the time recently is that although it is good to want those things, and it's good to imagine what they'd be like by looking through a peephole, there is so much more to them and to life than what can be seen in that tiny image.

Every time I check in with my mental health and I work out what I need to do to get it where I want it, I'll often times seek out some time for myself to do some self care things that work for me.

Personally, I take a lot of comfort in taking the time to pamper myself. I'll do my makeup really well even though I don't plan on going out or seeing anyone, and I'll put on that perfume that's only for "special occasions", and I'll do my nails and my hair. Most of the time, after I've done all of that, I'll sit in my sweatpants watch some movies or take the time to read a book I've been wanting to read for a while.

If I don't have the ability to do that, I'll try to ground myself in the present time, in whatever is going on in that day. If I'm sitting in a class, I'll focus soely on that class and not on anything else that's swirling around in my brain. This is especially helpful for me on rough days becuase I tend to dwell on the past or potential future happenings that end up only making me upset or more stressed. Being able to focus on one thing at a time, and staying completely in what's currently going on helps me to maintain the emotional stability that I lose when I think about too many things at once.

I know I've said this before on this blog, but I find the best stress reliever to be cleaning. This is especially good now that I have guinea pigs with me becuase they need a lot of cleaning and upkeep to allow me to get some good stress relief in. My guinea pigs are also a great form of self care for me as well, because I love them and being able to spend a lot of time with them.

What I do for self care is ever changing, but it always leads to the same amount of relief on my mental health that I need every once in a while to keep myself going.

Do you have any good self care things that you do? Have you ever looked at your ideal things through a peephole and then they turned out differently when you got to them?

I'll see you on Thursday

Tuesday, February 13, 2018

Thoughts on Valentine's Day

I have a lot of feelings right now, so I'm kind of mixed in my opinion about Valentine's Day this year. I, as you may remember, got broken up with last month, so I had originally thought that I would have a significant other to spend Valentine's Day with this year, however I do not... So it's more of a "Single's Awareness Day" for me... But I wanted to take the time to kind of lay out everything that I'm thinking about when it comes to Valentine's Day, because I may not be the only one who thinks/feels this way!

(I want to kind of say starting out that while I'm typing this up I have a really bad glare on my computer regardless of where I sit right now, so please forgive any mistakes that are typing related because I can't read what I'm writing very well)

Alrighty, so I've been trying to work out how I want to spend my Valentine's Day tomorrow, and at the moment I think that I'm going to call both my mom and my grandma to let them know that I love them and that they're doing great with life, and then I'll probably get really comfortable (basically meaning that I'll go full potato and stay on my couch in comfy clothes) and watch as many rom-coms as I can while eating total junk and not feeling bad about it!

That sounds kind of sad, mostly because it's meant to be a day spent being loved and loving on someone else, and candy, and things like that, but I think that an afternoon of alone time after spending the morning in classes is a good way to go.

I think one of the big things people miss out on is showing some love to their family members and friends on Valentine's Day because it's seen as a holiday meant for couples. One of the best things that I received for V Day is a super cute little card that my baby cousins made for me. It's covered in stickers and their super cute handwriting, and it's something that I think I'll keep forever!

So if you're feeling extra aware of your single status, take the day for some self love, or to remind the important people in your life how much they mean to you - Especially if it involved cards and stickers and super cute small children! Haha

To be honest, a pretty horrible part of me wants to fill my ex boyfriend's jacket that I still have with glitter and leave it in his locker at work tomorrow, because then I would no longer have this thing that reminds me of him that I no longer want, and then he'll be stuck finding glitter pretty much everywhere for along time. I kind of feel like her deserves it, but it was said to me that he might be down about being single on V Day... To which I responded that it's his own fault he's single on V Day... Haha Let me know what you think, and/or if you have any opinions about returning gear to an ex significant other.

What are your feelings about Valentine's Day? Let me know how you're planning on spending the day this year! I'll see you on Thursday
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