Thursday, September 29, 2016

Someone To Confide In

At this point in my life, I've found it really hard to find someone to confide in. Up to this point in my life, I've had my two best friends that were close enough I could throw a stone and hit their houses. Now that I'm away at school, one of them is out of the country, and the other is attending college in a different state, it's harder for us to "get together" to talk about our lives and get advice from each other like we used to.

More recently I've been craving some boy talk, mainly because I'm not sure what to do about my dating life and the guys who have started to pop up in it. I've mainly just been silently confused and trying to avoid everyone at all costs... Which isn't a good way to go about it.

Since this has been something I've been thinking about a lot, I decided to make a little list of what I've been looking for in a person to confide in with the personal stuff.

The most important thing that I look for is their ability to keep things a secret. I wouldn't feel comfortable sharing personal things with this person if I thought they were going to tell everyone else that they know what I'd said.

The second most important thing to me is whether or not they're a compassionate person. I like to think that I'm pretty compassionate, which makes me seek it out in others. Being able to feel like someone really understands and is willing to help (where needed) is amazing! 

One of the things that I really look for in someone to confide in is their availability. If they never want to hang out with me or get together, then I wouldn't have the opportunity to confide in them or for them to confide in me as well. 

For me, it's important to have someone like this so that I don't keep everything bottled up. I also need someone who will reassure me that I'm not crazy or doing the complete "wrong" thing. Plus, being able to talk through a lot of things helps give me some clarity - I'm able to look at the big picture and see what's really going on. 

This post was kind of random, but I hope someone will find it helpful in some way. 

I'll see you on Tuesday.

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